But what if you don’t like who you are being in any or all of those dimensions? What if you are too weak, too bold, too talkative, too fearful, too sluggish? Maybe you are being too small, too withholding, too greedy? What if you are being the wrong person in your life altogether? Possibly because you started that way and don’t know how to correct yourself.
I learned a long time ago that you can literally start your entire life over any day you want. And many times, I have done just that. From scratch. That right there was a comforting tool to have in my back pocket for all those times I desperately wanted to recreate, reboot or just plain start over. But, one thing it didn’t teach me was to be better, just to start over. The rest I had to learn myself.
Over the years I have rigorously studied ontology and non-linear learning. These distinctions changed the course of my life by providing me the tools to change what no longer served me. No longer did I have to rely on what I learned in all of my schooling, but instead, I could BE anyone I wanted to be. And I could do it immediately. (With a bit of practice at first)
I’ve done this a hundred times in my life, but I recall one really significant day when I made the decision to trade my hugely successful Real Estate career; where I was in the top 6% of my company in the world for a ‘starting over with absolutely NOTHING career’ as a coach. Which was my life’s dream since a very young age by the way (even before it was called ‘coaching’) Talk about scary, right? And I was pretty much a wimp at that time in my life. I was basically a beginner at challenging myself. But a committed beginner. So, I figured I had to take some kind of bold action to shift my 25-year career as a Realtor to a Life and Business Coach mentality. I used my study of ontology and nonlinear learning to accomplish this the day I was called to show a property in my neighborhood. I didn’t show property anymore, but since it was in my neighborhood, I chose not to call someone from my team and show it myself. (Already things were falling into place)
Only this time I decided NOT to leave my house as a Realtor, but instead, leave it as a COACH. No, I didn’t dress differently, but I did ‘BE’ different. Which meant I left the house with what I had decided a COACH mentality was for me and more importantly, what I had determined what a coach POSTURE was for me. You see, once I left that house as the coach I knew myself to be, there was no stopping me. I WAS A FREAKING COACH!
As I showed a property to ironically another Realtor, all I could do was listen to him as he told me some of the challenges he faced with his team and with his personal life. (he wasn’t interested in the place I showed him, but was interested and thirsty to have a committed listener). So, without a bit of surprise and with a whole lot of joy, I left that showing with my very first client, who paid me $1200! The rest as they say is 15-year-old history!
I’ve told this story hundreds of times (and I apologize if you’ve been hearing it all these years) But I tell it so that I can help you shift from the person you may not be fond of today to the person you choose to be in life and business. Literally, the first step is just to decide.
This happens to me often:
For some strange reason, and I had no clue why – coaching students have come to me to help them become coaches WHILE they are still in school. I am deeply honored to be thought of as a good supplement to their learning. But until this week, I didn’t fully understand why.
Then I received a call the other day from one of the most passionate women I have spoken with in a long time. She has a clear-cut and monumental mission. And you know what? She’s going to make a huge difference in the world. The funny thing is, she goes to an exclusive school to be trained as a coach but yet, she was referred to me. Why? Because she is being trained in linear learning of her trade. You know, the basic knowledge and details she will no doubt need, and which are all very important and necessary.
And while I do a lot of that as well when I teach systems, marketing and other important aspects of business, one of the MAIN reasons I do what I do is to help with the nonlinear learning aspect for both personal and business success. This incredible woman knew that linear learning was not enough to build her dream. She needed to call in the big guns of ontology and non-linear learning so that she could stand on the shoulders of her academic base. This was most likely the reason all those others contact me and I was truly privileged to be thought of in this way.
You see, once you get the foundation of who you are in place, then deciding of who you want to be on top of that foundation is vital. Do you want the distinction – Powerful? Leader? Master? Life Changer? What role suits who you are? Gentle, Teacher, Lover of Life, Fun, Freedom, Empowered? You choose, then you live it out. REALLY live it out and BE that.
Once you can define who you are or want to be, melding that with the structure you created will complete the dynamics of something wonderful!
So, for today, I’d love to recommend that you do some self-inquiry to see who you choose to ‘BE’ in your life and ask yourself, am I being that? If not, then maybe it’s time to incorporate that part of you into your life.
And if you don’t know where to begin or could use some guidance, then contact me, because I LOVE helping others on their self-discovery journey. I’ve had quite a ride myself and I know the dynamics and can steer you in the right direction and save you a few steps and support you along the way. You can do it yourself, for sure. But, remember I’m here just in case.
Whatever you do, touch that part of you as soon and as much as possible and watch your passionate blood circulate in every fiber of your being, because you will be doing just that, BEING you.
With the utmost love,
Have a Frantastic Day!
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